what are defense mechanisms

(such as suppression, repression, anticipation, regression, somatization, passive aggression, dissociation) that develop to adapt to problems with early objects (e.g., caregivers) and empathic failures in childhood. For example, persistent parental discouragement of anger may result in repression/suppression of angry feelings which manifests as gastrointestinal distress (somatization) when provoked by another while the anger remains unconscious and outside the individual's awareness. Such conflicts can be targets for successful treatment with psychodynamic therapy. While psychodynamic therapy tends to explore the underlying roots of anxiety, cognitive behavioral therapy has also been shown to be a successful treatment for anxiety by altering irrational thoughts and unwanted behaviors.

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Why I like fresh coldish weather

My personality analysis based on the big five.

OCEAN

The big five OCEAN

My principal motivator

According to a quiz I did, I am mainly an achiever:

• Has a strong need to set and accomplish challenging goals.
• Takes calculated risks to accomplish their goals.
• Likes to receive regular feedback on their progress and achievements.
• Often likes to work alone.

However I think share other points with other personalities.

For example I think I could completely fit in affiliation.

• Wants to belong to the group.
• Wants to be liked, and will often go along with whatever the rest of the group wants to do.
• Favors collaboration over competition.
• Doesn't like high risk or uncertainty.

And some points in power

• Likes to win arguments.

• Enjoys status and recognition.

So I think I should do activities to develop those traits.

Some questions I have to answer are: 

How can I be liked and accepted by people while keeping my essence?

Why do some of us have troubles getting along well with new people.